Hindsight Is A Girl’s Best Friend
So, inspired by Sara, advice to myself 10 years ago.
In 1999, I was either finishing my freshman year of college or starting my sophomore year.
That guy you broke up with? That’s a great idea. I had this long-term boyfriend that I spent a LOT of time with freshman year of college. I’m not going to say that time was wasted, I was also way more upset about breaking up with him than I should have been. Girl, you are not even yet 20.
In spite of my previous advice, just go ahead and accept that you feel everything on 11. It’s one of the things that I’ve really grasped about myself in the last year, but I am as stubborn as my dad and I FEEL EVERYTHING, well, like I’m permanently set at 11. I don’t think of it as being sensitive, per se, but I have very, very strong feelings and reactions. If I’d realized really what the hell was going on in my head ten years ago, I might just managed myself better, and felt better about it.
When you graduate in 2002, shit will be rough. It will be okay though. Just try to relax more.
You are going to date a string of very strange guys. This is going to be good in a few ways, one of them being, you are going to have a lot of fun. Another of them will be that when you meet the guy you end up with in the end, you will have equipped yourself with enough radar to know you’re making a good decision. Some of these guys will be stinkers and people will judge you not only for nearly always dating someone, but also for having friends with benefits. You already think this, but just to reiterate: Fuck those people. At least one of those FWB guys is going to help you through some rough spots by putting the emphasis on the friend part and understanding that “benefits” in this context don’t always mean sex.
Finally, go dancing more. Make better friends with Ross earlier and just dance.
